Weddings in the Parish of Kincumber
Within the Christian church, marriage is taken very seriously. Jesus Christ, in his teachings recorded in the Bible, was clear about marriage being a life long commitment between two people, a man and a woman. To be married in a Christian church you would need to share this view of marriage.
At Kincumber Anglican Church we believe in life long marriage as taught about by Jesus in the Bible. We would like to do all that we can to assist couples to prepare for this commitment and with achieving a long lasting and happy marriage. To that end, we ask all couples marrying at Kincumber Anglican Church to attend some marriage preparation training. This training can assist couples to discover more about themselves and their relationship. In addition, you will learn some tips and hints about how to communicate well, solve conflict and continue to build your relationship after your marriage. Marriage preparation seminars based at Kincumber Anglican Church, which are run over a Friday evening and all day Saturday, are included in the cost of your wedding at Kincumber Anglican Church. These courses are run by a couple professionally trained to conduct marriage preparation training. Previous feed back from couples on this marriage readiness training time is very positive
If you are unable to attend the Kincumber based seminars, you would need to attend a one day “Growing Together” course run by Anglicare in various locations in Sydney at a cost of about $200
The cost of a wedding in Kincumber Anglican Parish
The cost includes marriage preparation (the Seminar we provide), the wedding certificates and other stationery, the organist and flowers. A component of this cost goes to the Church’s Heritage Fund for maintenance, and the remainder to the Parish.
- Total Cost: $1000
- Deposit: $200 when you book the wedding.
- Remainder: $800 one month prior to the wedding.
How to pay:
By cash, cheque- payable to Kincumber Anglican Parish PO Box 6105 Kincumber 2251; or direct deposit, Kincumber Anglican Parish, Westpac BSB 032596 Account No 540505
- A Notice of Intended Marriage Form must be signed by both you and your partner more than one month before the wedding is to take place. This is a legal requirement of the Australian Government. The Church needs two months notice of any wedding.
- Who will conduct your wedding? One of the clergy of the Parish will most likely conduct your wedding. If they are unavailable we will arrange another minister to take your wedding.
- People must be 18 years of age or older to be married in Australia.
- Please bring birth certificates to the first wedding interview. Evidence of termination of any previous marriage should also be brought.
- There will be flowers in the church for your wedding. Closer to your wedding date colour schemes can be discussed.
- The complete wedding service lasts around thirty minutes from the time the bride enters the church. The Bride is requested to be on time. The Groom should be 15 minutes early.
- St Paul’s Church, Kincumber (established 1842), is quite small and can only seat 60 people. It is possible to have another ten people standing at the back. If your wedding is likely to be larger than 70, then inside St Paul’s is not really a suitable venue. Weddings outside the Church may be held, please let us know if you are interested.
- As it is a Christian Marriage Service which will take place, it is appropriate that couples attend church services prior to their wedding. We have an informal evening service on Sunday at 5.00pm in the Kincumber Youth Centre, Kincumber. The Parish has a number of organists and one of these will be happy to play for your wedding. Any music or solos other than church organists must have minister’s approval.
- The marriage service is a simple and sincere ceremony where two people make promises to one another before God, and before family and friends. Be careful not to over glamorize what is going on.
- You should be totally aware of what is happening on the day – so NO alcohol or drugs BEFORE the ceremony. If you partake, then be aware that the service will be cancelled. If you need such ‘Dutch courage’ then you are not ready to take on the responsibility of marriage.
- Pew decorations are permitted if they are tied on (perhaps with a ribbon) and not pinned or taped to the pews.
- Ushers should arrive about 20 minutes before the Ceremony, and should then give out the orders of Service or booklets at the church door.
- Either one or two wedding rings are acceptable.
- Two people must witness your signature when signing the register and Marriage Certificates. These are usually the best man and the chief bridesmaid. Witnesses need to be over the age of eighteen.
- Please do not use confetti. Rose petals and rice are acceptable and bubbles are all the rage.
What to do now?
If you wish to proceed with a Christian, Anglican wedding in this Parish:
- Call the office on 02 4369 1204, or call the senior minister Allan Bate on 0428 917 998 to make a booking for your wedding day